Men do things differently. A lot of people would say men do things the wrong way but I don’t think that is true. Women like to think their way is the right way. I often wonder if the differences between the genders are the root of many failed relationships.
I remember when I was a newlywed, I just didn’t understand why my husband would do the things he would do. For example, when preparing for our honeymoon I had a check list, a time frame and back up plan. He packed 30 mins before we left. Another difference between me and my husband is the way we clean the kitchen. The way he does it drives me crazy. Instead of letting the water faucet and/or sprayer make the bubbles, he puts his hands in the sink and swishes it around to make the bubbles. Once again, this drives me crazy.
I was at the store the other day and I saw a man with a mop bucket. He had the bucket filled with other items including food. He was on the phone getting instructions (I assume from his wife) about coffee. He had placed the bucket in the middle of the aisle and I couldn’t get by. He tried to move it for me but his hands were full and he ended up dropping a few items. I found this hilarious. I don’t understand for the life of me why he just didn’t get a basket when he came in. I told my husband this story and he completely understood. My husband explained he didn’t need the basket because he knew he was going to get the bucket before he went in. I think he threw in there somewhere, what is the difference between the two. Classic example of how men and women differ. Most of the time if I am going to the grocery store for one item I still get a basket because I know I will most likely buy more than what I came for.
I don’t understand why most women are better grocery shoppers than men. I go to the store with a list and come out with everything I need and maybe a couple more items that didn’t make the list. I send my husband to the store and I am lucky to get everything on the list. Also, if it isn’t on the list, I know he isn’t getting it.
I admit he is doing a lot better with his grocery shopping. He only calls me once or twice. When I first started sending him to the store, I was pretty much on the phone the whole time with him. Then I got smart. I made the list to fit the store lay out. For example, I would tell him start at the back of the store and work your way to the front. Each item would correspond with this game plan. We still have hiccups now and then. Last week I sent him to the store for drumsticks. He called me and told me they didn’t have any drumsticks left but they did have chicken legs. I was rolling.
Usually when I go to the store, I will bring back something just for him. Nothing big, but something. I usually grab him a bag of chips, cookies, or something I think he may like. When he goes, I never get anything. This used to hurt my feelings but then I remembered men are different. When he goes to the store he is on a mission. A mission to get what is on the list in the shortest time possible. Ladies, if you want your men to pick you up something special, put ‘get me a surprise’ on the list. It works. He will pick you something out but you have to put it on the list.
I will admit, most men are better clothes shoppers than women. My husband can go to the store, pick out a pair of pants and shirt in less than 15 minutes. It will take me 15 minutes just to decide what department I want to look at first. I am sure that drives men crazy, just like their grocery shopping drives us crazy.
I could go on and on about how men differ from women. I don’t think one way is necessarily the right way. I think it all evens out in the end. So next time your significant other does something different, remember just because it is different doesn’t make it wrong. Just like my husband and his different way of doing the dishes. In the end I am just happy I have a husband who doesn’t complain when its his turn to do the dishes.
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