Unorthodox Matchmaker Tells Singles in New Book Not to Take Care of Someone's Future Spouse
Bestselling Author and unorthodox matchmaker Hellen Chen (above) arriving at the wedding reception of a couple she has helped to match-make.
Hellen Chen's Love Seminar Book - the missing manual that makes relationships last
Thomas was a top insurance agent who had always achieved great income with his sales job. Since he was in his 20s, he had wanted to settle down with the woman of his dreams and have children.
However, fate would have it that in the span of 10 years, he ended up having only girlfriends but never a committed partner. All in all, he had 3 different partners, each relationship lasting about 3 years and would then break up. A decade went by and he had still no wife, no children -- no family despite wanting it from the very beginning.
Bestselling author and unorthodox matchmaker Hellen Chen talks about how common this situation has become for singles, "I called this 'taking care of someone else's spouse.'"
What Chen is referring to is some guys or ladies would date for a number of years and yet never pull the trigger for marriage. In the end, they would break up with their dating partner and their dating partner would end up marrying someone else.
"There are only 2 ways a dating relationship could end up: marriage or breakup. So if you engage in long term dating and there is no marriage in place, the next 'natural result' is a breakup." said Chen.
Last year, Chen's book on her matchmaking experiences and how she has helped countless singles to overcome the barriers to getting married has become a top bestseller on Barnes and Noble. The book titled "Matchmaker of the Century" reveals real-life stories of what couples and singles in their quest for a sound marriage.
On next week Oct 30th Wednesday at BarnesAndNoble.com, Chen will release a brand new book titled "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar."
This book, cited as "the missing manual that makes relationships last" gives advices to singles on how to find the right partner and how not to end up taking care of someone else's spouse.
The book also reveals the biggest mistake women and men make in their relationships and the common marriage problems that are making relationships failing and how to avoid them.
Having developed the reputation of assisting those who have the least chance to find a right match to actually tie the knot, the unorthodox matchmaker said, "I get approached by individuals who are in their late 30s and 40s and even 50s. They are stable in their career. But they could not find a suitable match and many of them would like to have children." said Chen. "That is why I wrote this book because there are simply too many questions about how to find the right person."
In an interview from Los Angeles, Chen also talks about timing and age. "You cannot be 20 or 30 twice. Timing plays a big role in forming a family. Putting families on the back burner tend to let it be forgotten. We cannot turn back the clock in lost time."
About the notion that it is better to wait to have more money before embarking onto marriage, Chen explained, "People think that having no money means they should not marry. But family math is different. One plus one is more than two. When you marry and then work together and produce together, you can create more economic stability and growth."
"The power of love is great," Chen continued, "If hardworking individuals can spend part of their time to take care of love matters like marriage, they will do much better in all aspects of life -- career, personal development and having a family future to look forward to."
What about the story of Thomas? Did he fulfill his marriage goal?
Thomas met Chen 2 years ago and having wised up on how he would select a potential mate, he got married and is now the happy father of a baby boy with a second one on its way.
To learn more about Chen's new book, visit: http://matchmakerofthecentury.com/los-angeles-love-seminar-hellen-chen/