Don't Be Afraid To Ask!! How To Date A Beautiful Woman, Third Revised Edition (Paperback)

by Bob Lott (Author) ISBN 0966363566

Editorial Reviews

Beach Magazine

Making more money is Not a required - not even a suggested - step on Lott's path to dating.

Donald Trump's Miss USA Pageant

Kellie Lightbourn Miss Virginia and a Miss USA runnerup graces the front cover of this book.



Book Description

A beautiful woman glances at you, then looks away and doesn't notice you for the rest of the night. What did you do wrong? I'm about to tell you... and we'll fix it so it doesn't happen again. She could be a brilliant neurosurgeon, an accomplished jazz musician, or a compassionate listener.

When you first lay eyes on her sitting at the next table, your first impression is likely to be more on the lines of "Whoa-nice body!" Men's initial reactions are primal, simple, and to the point. Women are cool with that. That's why that neurosurgeon gal is wearing the tube top/mini skirt. Therefore you need to understand that women's first impressions are anything but simple. She may look like she's casually glancing your way, but in reality her eyes are roving all over you like one of those Bond-film mini-spy-cams, and her brain whirring like a high speed supercomputer. She's taking a complex head-to-toe inventory involving megabytes of clear and specific information that you had no idea you were revealing. No matter what the ads say, there simply isn't one perfect shirt, or pick-up line, or haircut, or cologne that will reel women in. All women are looking for the same basic qualities in men. The direct approach is the most productive way to break the ice with a beautiful woman. When approaching her, you look at her face-to-face and make direct eye contact only. The first thing that you must mentally show and prove to her is that you most importantly respect her as a human being,. This means look at her in high esteem. In this situation, the best way to obtain a friend is to be a friend.

She doesn't need to know that your checks bounce like a rubber ball in a handball tournament. Here are some free tips to exaggerate your wealth, even across a crowded room. First carry a money clip instead of a wallet. It's an accessory that show women you are financially secure enough to throw around money. Next, whatever else you have to skimp on, drop some money on the shoes. Women gauge other women's fiscal health by looking at their shoes.(It's generally easier to look good in inexpensive clothes than inexpensive shoes.) They will judge you the same way. Shoes that look pricier usually are made of smooth supple leather that doesn't crack over time, and thicker more substantial soles. Also note that a woman's subconscious mind toward your "resources" includes your education. Since studies show that women are least confident in the subjects of math and science, displaying confidence here will convince her you're Einstein across the board. So bone up on the Learning Channel.

When she passes you on the way to the powder room, the snippet she'll hear may sound like, "Although it lives in the sea, the horseshoe crab can actually drown if you turn it upside down and pour water over it." You see the human mind is motivated by one thing and one thing only. It is results. When your mind sees results it will do it again and again. It will take the success and automatically apply it to another situation and another and so on. We are leaders in the PRACTICAL APPLICATION of advanced technology guaranteed to produce immediate results that you and your brain instantly recognize. It is your great need for results that have motivated us to present you a manual that you will learn how to meet, date, marry, and raise a family with a beautiful woman in a normal, healthy, and functional manner.

From the Publisher

Power, money, fame, looks, aren't these the attributes wanted by most beautiful women in the world? Most of us unendowed as we think we are, have much substance to offer a woman, if we get the proper exposure. Glitz, glitter, and things that shine do offer initial distractions preventing the average man from auditioning for the part of "Knight in shining armor." How does Mr. Average compete with Mr. Perfect for equal time? Don't Be Afraid To Ask!! How To Date A Beautiful Woman answers that question. Never before has a manual been presented that provides the skills you need to capture the heart of a beautiful woman. Most of the time, we don't even compete for fear of rejection. No one likes to lose. Most of us don't try in order to avoid the disgrace. We settle for what we think we deserve rather than what we are entitled to. You are entitled to the woman you want. Don't love what you have! Have what you love! Amazingly, dating a beautiful woman is more of a mental feat than a physical one. Lack of confidence, fear of rejection, low self-esteem, and the belief you are unworthy have been your real disabilities in the endeavor to capture your prize. Don't Be Afraid To Ask!! How To Date A Beautiful Woman addresses these issues. Learn how to: Increase your confidence; Improve self-esteem; and Reduce your fear. Outlined in the book are simple steps proven to work. Extensive research discovered that you can employ a pattern that is extremely effective in preparing you mentally for the dating scene. Don't Be Afraid To Ask!! How To Date A Beautiful Woman covers additional areas you'll need to know: Where to go to meet beautiful women, HOW to introduce yourself, How to ask and where to go on your first date, How to recover from a failed relationship, and a host of other facts, you can use to succeed.

From the Author

I remember watching a TV show where the host was interviewing a movie star/karate champ who shall go nameless. The host asked him what the secret of his success was, and the karate guy looked at him in that wooden way of his and said: "When I first started out competing in Karate Tournaments, I wasn't that good. I got beat a lot, but I always learned from my mistakes. Instead of crying over my losing, I just studied what I would have to do differently the next time, and whenever I met the same guy again or a different guy in the same situation, I always beat "em." Look - unless you are unusually lucky, chances are you are going to make a few mistakes as you practice the ideas in this book. And as great as these concepts are, they won't work every single time. Unless you know how to learn from your mistakes and accept an occasional loss, you will get nowhere. The most successful guys at scoring, that I know, all have two great strengths. They have first power attitude we've just looked at and they also know how to accept getting rejected without it bothering them. They learn from their mistakes! Allow my book Don't Be Afraid To Ask!! How To Date A Beautiful Woman show you the way to unlock the door of heart,and date her indefinitely.

Excerpted from Don't Be Afraid To Ask : How To Date A Beautiful Woman by Bob Lott. Copyright © 2007. Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved

The First Approach Overcoming Fear

Fear is something inflicted upon us, through no fault of our own. From birth to adolescence through adulthood it continues to influence us, either positively or negatively. Fear of failure, even when it is based on false assumptions, affects our behavior. It controls us and prohibits us from reaching our potential. To overcome fear, you must understand fear and the ingredients that go with it. Fear can be broken down to pain, fright, punishment, consequences, trouble, aggravation, turmoil, mental anguish and physical abuse. Fear, based on facts, can protect us. But when it comes to meeting and dating a beautiful woman, fear of failure will deter us. In approaching today's women, there are more risks and potential dangers than at any time in history. This is why you must proceed very carefully and with extreme caution. It is also important to understand that the greatest fear a woman has toward a man she doesn't know is that he is a potential threat or endangerment to her life. You may be afraid to approach her, but she is even more afraid of you as an unknown. To erase this fear from her mind, you must first convince her that you're a nice guy and can be trusted. It's important that you do not make her feel awkward and uncomfortable. You must be honest and sincere. Do not try to con her, She's not only beautiful, but she's smart and will instantly be turned on to you or turned off. Men, your shallow thoughts of how to attract a woman to spend time with you must be abolished. Pick-up lines are a thing of the past. If this is your approach, her impressions of you will be that you are a jerk. It will result in immediate rejection. You must refrain from being a common man. The common man wants the beautiful woman, but the beautiful woman does not want the common man.To get her attention, you must be unique, showing her you're not just another guy, but different. Be genuine, kind, and sensitive. Listen attentively and be interested in her as person. The most important factor in dating is to learn from the person you are dating. And now, what are you going to do when you see a beautiful woman passing by? Are you going to bite your tongue, freeze and go into a state of shock? Are you going to approach her? We must replace the fear of failure with faith. You have to believe that the idea of meeting a beautiful woman, without introduction by a third party, is something you can really do. Now, you must have real guts and true grit. Cast your fears into the wind. Develop self-confidence. You're a great guy! You really deserve to be in her company. So the pressure's on. You scared to death! "Well, What do I say?" It's not what you say that't important, but how you say it. Wherever you happen to be, you're in a situation to approach any woman. The number one mistake that 99 percent of all men make is that they approach a woman with a statement. If you want to strike out every time, then just keep approaching women with statements. I guarantee you will. "So," you ask, "What do I do, and how do I get her attention?" You don't. The second biggest mistake men make in approaching a woman is that they think they have to fabricate some fantastic line to impress her. Wrong! You will strike out every time. The third biggest mistake that men make is misunderstanding how women feel about them. Here is where men must change their thinking, if they want to date a beautiful woman. In this situation, what causes a man to lose so many women, is that his ego gets in the way. He is very upset and frustrated that she's not madly in love with him. So if your ego is greater than your desire to date a beautiful woman then you will, I assure you, strike out everytime. How she feels about you is not important. What is important is how good you make her feel about herself. She must see in your eyes that you think of her as being very special.When she senses this, her life will glow more brightly than the lights on broadway. And with this understanding and attitude, you will automatically become closer to her. For you to make her feel good about herself, let her see you for who you are. She will eventually like you in a very special kind of way. Authentic relationships like this are very rare. So in the approach to a woman, you are like land a short distance from the sun and taking a short time to warm up, and she is like water a long distance from the sun taking a long time to heat up. So to describe it in more detail, dry land during the day is hot because of the sun beating down and heating up very quickly. However, the water doesn't heat up until evening, but the water stays warmer longer. Men and women don't work the same way. Men are instantly filled with awe over women, whereas a beautiful, healthy, normal woman needs time. But when you give her time, her feelings and admiration for you will be stronger and greater than you could realize. You approach her the same way you would approach a friend or acquaintance. You ask her a question.